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Sarah Scott's Luxury Home Internet Overshare

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Sarah Scott shared her life's truth on the Internet recently and has gotten the bitch slap of her life as a result. I say "bitch slap" intentionally, despite, as a rule, never using that word to describe women myself. I say "bitch slap" because the vast majority of people commenting on her life's truth now think of Sarah Scott as a bitch—an entitled, narcissistic, privileged, complaining, white bitch, to be more precise.

The truth that Sarah Scott shared in the blog post that incurred such Internet wrath was that she and her husband have "sacrificed" (her word) the addition of a third child to their family in favor of maintaining a lifestyle that was borne of their careful planning. That includes her "luxury dream" home, which Scott describes in detail, an annual vacation, the ability for her to not work outside the home so she may be with her children full time, and things and opportunities for her two sons that would not be possible should the family welcome a third child to the fold.

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Scott herself acknowledges that her admission feels like a secret, one that she is certain most people are not capable of understanding, because she believes people her age "don't plan as meticulously" as she and her husband have. And yet, share she did on the Internet for all the world to see, consider and, yes, trash in the comments and across social media platforms.

More interesting to me is how personally readers and commenters have taken to Sarah Scott's post.

The Internet overshare is a fine line. There is something to be said for blasting your truth, claiming it loudly and proudly, whatever that might be. The flip side of that is leaving yourself out there to be judged. That is what social media is for, yes? Judging others is sport in that domain. And when the judging happens and is harsh, do you have anyone to blame but yourself for having put it out there in the first place? Probably not.

I, too, of course judged. How can you not? It is human nature. But what I think of Sarah Scott and her choices (not sacrifices as she calls them—oops, I just spilled a wee bit of judgment) is of no consequence to anyone but myself. Having been at the receiving end of Internet hate and vicious comments myself, I know the toll anonymous hate can take. I won't add to it in any significant way.

More interesting to me is how personally readers and commenters have taken to Sarah Scott's post. There is a polar divide with the vast majority experiencing her words as a whiny cry for self-pity, while a much smaller minority have defended her and see Ms. Scott as a responsible adult and a sympathetic figure. Nowhere have I seen any discussion on what her revelations say about the larger concept of the economic realities of so many. The chasm between the haves and the have nots has widened.

Perhaps that is where she lost so many of her readers—a tone-deaf approach to modern economics.

The disparity of how out of reach the American dream is for many of us touched a nerve in readers that damned Ms. Scott to her Internet flap. While she spoke her truth, absent from her reflections was any sense of how privileged that truth is to most folks. On the contrary, she seemed very self-satisfied with her ability, with her husband, to exercise discipline and ambition that she feels most of her peers lack.

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Perhaps that is where she lost so many of her readers—a tone-deaf approach to modern economics. Her struggle is a legitimate one, for her and her husband. But does all of America need to be privy to it?

Perhaps Marie Antoinette could empathize with Ms. Scott's overshare, but as the commenters revealed, most folks could not.

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