I didn't make a conscious choice to become a mother later in life. It's just the way things
worked out. I had my daughter when I was 40
As with anything else, there are advantages and disadvantages.
I like that I have years of
experience and perspective to draw from when facing parenting demands. I think
I am better equipped to be a mom now than I was when I was younger. Having
lived a fair amount of life, I have faced adversity, overcome obstacles and mastered
I do not like when people mistake me
for my child's grandmother. I cringe when my child makes sure to include
three large lines across my forehead whenever she draws a picture of me. And I
hate the impact peri-menopause is having on every aspect of my life, including parenting.
I know women my age who have
young children. But sometimes I feel very out of place. The other day, I put the following status on Facebook:
"You know you're a later in life
mom when your friends are driving their kids to college, and you just dropped
yours off for the first day of first grade."
It ended up being one of my most
popular updates. Apparently, many could relate. So much so that when I
asked them to complete the sentence, "You know you're an older mom when…" they
had a lot to say:
"Your friends are
posting pics of college graduations, engagement photos and new grandkids, and
you are posting pics of your kids in grade school." —Kathy
"You're going through menopause before your daughter even starts
her first period. OMG, did I just write that?" —Tracy
"Other moms are experiencing cramps, and you're
experiencing hot flashes." —PJ
"All of your daughter's friends have moms 10 years younger than
the math and realize you're old enough to be your kid's teacher's mother." —Kristina
Your kids ask you if you remember what Prohibition was like.
"You've been asked about your grandkids when they are your kids.
"You go straight for the tankini." —Sarah
"The parents of your children's classmates were born the year
you graduated high school." —Paula
"You're planning your daughter's wedding, and the groom's
mom looks 10 years younger than you." —Barbara
"Your sciatica acts up every time you put the kid in the crib.
EVERY TIME." —Shelia
"Your kids ask you if you remember what Prohibition was
constantly doing the math: When she's 20, I'll be..." —Amy
"You wear pajama pants for school drop-offs, because
you lived through the first phase of that being a cool thing and it's been so
long, surely it's about to make a comeback. And also you don't care anymore." —Maureen
"Your husband is bald." —Paul
"Or mostly grey." —Barb, Paul's wife
And this mom has a very interesting perspective:
"You know you've been having kids way too long when you have a
college kid and a preschooler at the same time!" —Leslie