People always laugh when I tell them I'm an introvert, because I am not shy. That's a common misconception about we introverts. We aren't all shy.
In fact, I do just fine speaking in front of crowds and networking among a ton of strangers. I can come off confident and happy but, dude, it sucks up a lot of my energy. This was all manageable until my babbling infant became a verbose toddler. I now find myself being thrown in so many uncomfortable situations, all because she's an extroverted little kid with an introverted mama.
Here's something we introverted mamas can expect when we're raising little extroverts.
Think you're just going to casually cruise through Target? Think again. Extroverted kids love meeting new people, and it doesn't matter if mama has the "don't talk to me" look on her face. Your kid will inevitably screech "hi!" to the older gentleman in the cleaning aisle. She'll tap the leg of the the lady in produce and, right before you leave, she'll point to the mole on the cashier's face and ask, "What's that big thing on her face, mama?"
I've already discussed how much I dislike playdates, but they are even more uncomfortable when your kid wants to be everyone's friend. Your little one will bounce from child to child, trying to play with them or get to know them. All the while, their parents are casually wanting to know more about you. Deep down, you don't really want to talk to anyone.
You just want to sit there.
3. Birthday parties
Kid birthday parties for introverted parents are like playdates on speed. Kids high on sugar is already a lot for any parent but add an introvert like me into the mix and you're left with the shakes hours after cake and clean-up. Sadly, you don't really want to help the host or hostess and aren't in the mood to chat it up with other parents. You pretty much want to run your kid down so that she can sleep well later.
Having an inquisitive child is a great thing, they say. Their constant questioning fosters ideas and helps them develop, the experts suggest. The never-ending slew of questions about why dogs aren't purple can also make an introverted mama go mad in 2.3 seconds. Yes, kid, I'm glad you've got questions. But ohmigoodness, I can't even hear the thoughts in my head.
5. The lack of quiet time/space
The beauty in being an introvert means you're OK with being quiet. You don't need company, and you don't need a ton of noise. You are perfectly fine spending time alone. This doesn't exist when you have an extroverted child. Whether it's constantly singing, asking questions or just random chattering, your child will likely not ever be quiet. Unless of course you plop them in front of TV for hours at a time. Judge me if you like, but in an attempt to get some quiet time, I have done this.
6. Teaching your kid the quiet game
I never claimed to be Mommy of the Year, so please excuse me if you're one of those parents who is completely against bribing. I, however, am a huge fan. It means I can get my kid to sit quietly for just a few minutes. Sometimes, that's all I need.
This is especially useful when we're in the car.
7. Sleepovers are worse than playdates and birthday parties
I loved having friends over when I was growing up. It was a huge and fantastic part of my childhood. I'm not sure how I'll manage this when my kids to get to that point. Dealing with my talkative daughter is one thing, but a crew of rambling kids tearing up my house and making a ton of noise? I just, I ... I already can't.
8. The fewer the kids, the better
I have no desire to have more than two children, because the more kids I have, the more noise I'll have to endure. Each one will battle for my attention, and the sheer thought of this makes my head want to explode.
9. Mommy guilt when away from kids? Not really
Some moms struggle with being away from their kids for even short periods of times. Introverted mamas, however, deal with the temporary sadness, if it means a few hours or days away from the chatterboxes. We return back to our children feeling refreshed and renewed.
This can be said for all parents, no matter what energy level they're raising. A child's bedtime is truly the best part of the day. Even if dirty kitchens and cluttered living rooms await you, at least you know you can tackle said chores with a little bit of clarity.