On December 31, we
all close one chapter in our life and open another for 2016. Now is about the time people start planning resolutions. Even though I don't
believe in resolutions per se, I do believe you can drastically
change your life. As someone who made big changes this year, I know
The biggest resolutions mistake
people make is setting goals that are too broad. Here are some of the biggest resolutions no-no's and some ideas on what you can do instead. Get ready to kick off the year you're envisioning just right.
Set concrete, healthy practices
health matters more to us each year. Plenty of us want to become
healthier, but this is too broad a goal. You'll have more success by
committing to concrete healthy practices. For instance, resolve to
drink 9 cups (2 liters) of water per day and track your intake for
the month of January. You could also commit to taking a multivitamin,
join a fitness class at your local gym or studio, or start tracking
your food habits on the popular MyFitnessPal app.
desire to lose weight is often fueled by a sense of insecurity about
our bodies. But striving to change your body from a place of
body-insecurity makes your journey much harder. Start from a place of
self-love. Also, reframe the goal. Forget about losing weight. Let's
aim to get stronger and more agile while learning more about the
foods that can power you through the day. Find an activity that you
truly find fun—yoga, spin, running, weightlifting, etc. Your whole
concept of fitness might change.
"Work on my marriage"
Schedule the first date of the new year with your spouse
of us who are married go through ups and downs as we balance life,
work and parenting. But let's not forget what got us into all this:
love. Rather than make a broad resolution to work on your marriage,
take first steps to reconnecting. Here's the secret: never stop.
My marriage is replenished by those moments where we rise above the
chaos. Dates—even at-home ones—are crucial. Agree together on what to do
on your first date night of 2016.
"Be a better mom"
Appreciate the ups and downs of motherhood
it feels like we're all in a race to be not just the best mom we can
be, but the best mom, period. Stop this in 2016! Instead of making a
promise to be a better mom, commit to understanding that motherhood
will always have it's ups and downs. In the new year,
don't be your harshest critic.
"Make a career move"
Create a timeline of first steps for your goal
Many moms will want to make a
career move in 2016—getting a new job, becoming a SAHM or starting
a side venture. The best way to approach this goal is to set up a
timeline for the earliest steps. This might mean forming a new
budget, saving up a certain amount of money, working on your resume
and cover letters, or starting a new site for your business. Start
these first steps in January and watch your progress grow.
Plan your first family vacation of 2016
doesn't have to be extravagant. But if you want to travel more,
getting started matters or else you'll find yourself with the same
resolution this time next year. Who's up for a road trip or a short
"I want to do some charity work"
Start now by finding out what your local shelters need the most
others without expecting anything in return is one of the greatest
things any person can do. But there's no need to wait for 2016. Many
worthy causes need help now, especially during the holidays. Find out
if your local homeless or domestic violence shelters are in need of
gifts for the children of families seeking help there.
"Be less stressed"
Take your first yoga class
has helped me feel better than yoga and meditation. I work out my
stress in vinyasa class and leave with plenty of endorphins. While
yoga might not be for everyone, many people feel equally replenished
by an active lifestyle. Book your first session and try it for yourself.
how much time you spend on Facebook? I'm pretty sure a billion
people (about the number of monthly users) feel the same. If social
media is dragging you down, delete Facebook. Just delete it. In fact,
it seems like the cool thing to do now. Remember the time before
people were tethered to their phones? You can have that again.