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My Husband Tells Me to Take Fewer Pictures, But I Don’t Listen

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I married an old soul, a wise man. He’s a man who is calm and collected. He keeps telling me to be present with the kids, put the phone away and stop taking so many pictures of them. I have spent all morning trying to make room on my computer for over 10,000 pictures on my phone to be transferred. Oops! Maybe he’s right. Maybe I’m taking too many pictures.

Recent studies show that the more pictures you take, the less you will actually remember. Our brains are funny (lazy) like that. It’s almost like the list has been checked off and because the experience of what happened is in our phone memory, we don’t have to think about it anymore.

Still … #can’tstopwon’tstop! I love taking pictures of my kids! I love capturing little freeze frames of the magic of childhood. When the lighting is right, their playing in the backyard and they have that happy look on their faces, or when they dump cornstarch all over the carpet. Some of these things just have to be documented!

The truth is, it isn’t only for me. It isn’t to brag about them on Instagram or even show off for the grandparents. It’s for them—the kids.

I want my kids to have memories of their childhood and I believe that pictures help them do that. As they get older, I want them to have pictures to look at and say, “I remember that!”

I’m not very good at talking about the past or remembering, but I am good at taking pictures of moments that I want to remember.

I’m not very good at talking about the past or remembering, but I am good at taking pictures of moments that I want to remember and I want them to remember. Call it laziness, if you want to—I’m OK with that.

I’m not saying we should be playing games or scrolling social media for an hour while our kids beg for our attention. There is a specific presence that putting your phone away offers and I’m constantly working on that. Still, you can snap a couple of pictures before you do so! If it is a moment you want to remember, I say go for it. An easy rule to follow is to take pictures now and post pictures later—because, let’s be honest, finding the right filter and figuring out what to write is what takes the most time! Do it after your kids are in bed. That way, you can take the pictures and be present for all of those moments that are so fleeting while your children are little.

Time really does move too quickly. I believe that we’ll only regret the pictures we don’t take and cherish those that we do.

So, while my husband will mostly likely continue to tell me to take fewer pictures, I will continue to urge him to take more!

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