I listen to Adele's music and hear an old soul, but realize
that, when I do the math, I could be her teen mum. BAH! Talk about old souls.
My own advanced age aside, ahem, the more I read about and listen to Adele, the more I find I
can relate to her as a woman and a mother. She is a genuine, self-deprecating megastar. That is like a modern age unicorn, my friends,
the holy grail of celebrity.
With press that she has done to promote her latest album, "25," the fastest selling album of all
time, mind you, Adele has given quite a few interviews about music, motherhood,
and other things related to our modern lives. I've read a few of them, from the Time magazine
cover story to a USA Today profile
to the amazingly intimate interview she gave Britain's iD Magazine.
In a world littered with vapid, entitled reality stars, Adele is there,
singular, solid, herself. There is no
pretense. There is a joy, accessibility, vulnerability that has nothing to do with crying for the
camera. The trick, it seems, for how Adele
gets to remain Adele rather than morph into a virtual version of herself is
that she is completely aware of the necessary boundaries between real life and
Because her songs are about her and her life, and because the boundaries in this gal are strong, Adele struggled in trying to figure out what to write for the album.
It is utterly refreshing.
She rejects becoming a brand, as so many, no doubt, want to
make her. Instead, she is a young woman,
a mother, practicing her art, raising her 3-year-old son and having some
trouble doing both simultaneously.
Because her songs are about her and her life, and because
the boundaries in this gal are strong, Adele struggled in trying to figure out
what to write for the album. Some of her
first songs after giving birth to her son were about, well, her son. But, as she told Time,
"For me, it was great. Better than '25.' But he's the light of my life—not anyone else's."
Another thing off limits in Adele's music is her current
relationship with baby daddy/boyfriend Simon Konecki. There are no Taylor Swift tell-alls
"I don't want to write about us,
because I didn't want to make us feel uncomfortable," she said.
For a 27-year-old in a world of information and exposure, Adele, somehow, achieves that real life, which, in turn, helps us reflect on our own real lives.
When you see so many other celebrity
relationships hatched, patched or dashed via the media, to have a young woman
(albeit with that old soul she can't shake), refuse to blur the lines between
life and commerce, well, Adele, I salute you.
But I think what I love best about Adele, aside from that
gorgeous voice of hers, is the wisdom she brings in her approach to life and her
life's work, her art. Stick with me
here, but with the ascension of social media, we are all a bit overexposed
these days. What used to be the domain
of celebrities is something those of us on social media feel to a lesser degree
ourselves these days. Too many selfies,
too much information, too easy access. There is no mystery anymore. For
many of us.
Adele, though, has carved out a life for herself outside all
of that. She shies away from celebrity
just as she shies away from social media. In her iD Magazine interview she says, "I just
want to have a real life so I can write records. No one wants to listen to a record from
someone who has lost touch with reality."
For a 27-year-old in a world of information and exposure,
Adele, somehow, achieves that real life, which, in turn, helps us reflect on
our own real lives. It's downright old-fashioned. As a woman, as a mom—as a woman old enough to be her mom—I love her for it.