It occurred to me the other night while tucking in my
kids at bedtime: Maybe I should employ some tricks from my parenting 101 toolbox on my boyfriend. I had a feeling that if I used some basic parenting tools in my adult relationship, I might save it from disintegrating into the abyss of misery that has been my calling card.
After all, there I was, having just endured a good two hours of my overtired kids' fighting, crying and sleep-resisting. But I was smothering my mini Exorcists with kisses, telling them
how much I loved them, all as if I didn't want to throw dishes into the air and watch them drop, just minutes earlier. They drifted off to sleep in bliss, knowing all was fine and they were loved, no matter how good I was at expressing feelings that appeared otherwise an hour ago.
Parenting 101: things you do just because.
If we treated our lovers, partners, husbands and wives with the same basic
parenting 101 tools that we use to keep our kids in line and feeling loved and refreshed from the all the bad feelings that inevitably bubble up in a single day, I have a feeling all might be good in the land of relationships. Here are some basic techniques we use on our kids daily, only with an adult twist. They're sure to boost your love life and save you from divorce.
Only this time, when the shit hits the
fan, you take the time-out. Take a walk, grab a doughnut, a fonut, a glass of wine or take a
Soul Cycle class. Simply put, calm your frazzled
ass down before you start swinging. If that doesn't work, go back to smoking. You sneak those ciggies anyway.
And remember hands are not for hitting but holding, helping and pointing at
the asshole you had kids with.