The messages that barrage moms—and women, generally—often border
on the absurd. Most of us have been on the receiving end of some
inconsistent advice about what it means to be a good mom: Lean in.
No, lean out! Sure, we can just ignore the messages and move on. But the expectations we set for ourselves is influenced
by the social conditioning we experience through the media,
entertainment and our communities.
I'm not sure how the ideal mom in our collective imagination was
formed, but she's a salad-eating, yogurt-loving, top-level exec who
also makes all her kids' meals from scratch, is ever-patient, has a
mega-following on her Pinterest craft boards, runs marathons and
manages to stay super sexy for her spouse—of course.
We're supposed to want to have it all. But I've found that having
it all feels like spinning several plates at the same time in some
circus act in which no one applauds but everyone hands you more
@manwhohasitall, my new favorite Twitter personality described as
tips for men juggling a successful career and fatherhood.” The
genius behind this simple account is that it upends the messages directed at women
and moms when suddenly applied to men and
are a few favorites to read as we ponder whether men can really have it all:
Beyond the laughs,
the truth is these kinds of messages are never—never—directed at
dads. These all sound ridiculous, right? But apply them to moms and
they're supposed to make sense somehow.
I'm putting my yogurt
cup down for good because I've had enough. Stop asking if moms can have it all. It's as real a prospect as it is likely that you'll wake up tomorrow at 6 a.m. to enjoy a breakfast of six almonds and homemade kombucha.