As parents, the way in which we decide to approach the new school year will heavily influence our children's feelings about it. "Sometimes, as adults, we get anxious and that adds to the child's fear or creates the child's fear in the first place," says Marian Fritzemeier, PhD, speaker, educator and child development specialist. Negativity and enthusiasm are both very contagious, she notes, so watch how you're asking questions. For instance, instead of leading with, "Are you nervous to start at a new school?" ask more neutral, open-ended questions such as, "How are you feeling about going back to school?"