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Stop Making Moms Feel Guilty About All Our Stuff

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You know what I've seen more than enough of on Facebook in the last few years?

Articles telling me that my life will be so much better if I just get rid of everything I own. If these articles are to be believed, I'd just pare down my children's toy collection to a single beautiful wooden toy from Etsy and ditch everything in my closet except for 35 carefully chosen pieces for the perfect capsule wardrobe, and my life would be instantly improved.

Can we just stop?

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It's fine by me if you want to reduce your things to the bare minimum or if it made YOU happier. But please, for the love, stop making me feel like I'm ruining my children's childhood by having a closet with a big pile of games and puzzles (most of which we use on the regular!) or pressuring me to toss out the majority of my clothing.

Because my stuff is not overwhelming me.

I'm not a hoarder or even (I think) particularly materialistic. I'm not a crazy shopper and I don't max out my credit cards. My rooms are not filled with junk. I just have a regular amount of stuff.

I use the library constantly, but there are also books I enjoy owning my own copies of, whether they're books to read to my children hundreds of times over the next decade or books that make me happy to see on the shelf.

My husband likes having a small collection of movies, because sometimes Netflix won't connect no matter what we try, and Redbox doesn't have everything we could ever want.

I love decorating for the holidays, and it makes me happy to pull out things every year and to pick up a few new things on clearance after the holidays are over to add to my collections (which bring my children a ridiculous amount of joy as well).

I do a lot of cooking, so I want to have more than one set of measuring cups—and both a food processor and a high-powered blender. And I love a beautiful set of dishes. More than one.

Also, I really like owning more than two pairs of shoes.

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We don't live in a big city shoebox. We live in a good-sized house in the suburbs with a lot of storage space and while we're not AIMING to fill our house up, I'm OK if not every closet shelf is empty, either.

So can we all stop pretending that no possessions is the key to happiness? Let's all just try to find the right number of possessions for our OWN lives, which is going to be wildly different depending on your home, the size of your family, your income and your personal hobbies and interests. There's no one-size-fits-all for belongings.

And when I DO get rid of things, I'm not going to pause for a moment and thank that item for its service. Sorry, KonMari.

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