Alone time: It’s a rare and precious thing for a mom. Sometimes,
it’s unexpected. We look up from folding the laundry one Saturday morning and
realize our partner has taken the kids to the park and we are blissfully
alone in a quiet house. The joy quickly turns to panic. What should we do with
our time? How do we make this time count, especially when we don’t know when
it will happen again? We’re sure as hell not going to finish folding laundry,
Remember, she called us last week (or
was it two weeks ago?) and left us that long rambling message. Call her back
and indulge in a long, chatty conversation that won’t be interrupted by a child
asking for more apple juice or for us to turn on “Paw Patrol.”
4. Give ourselves a pedicure.
Put that phone call on speakerphone
and take a pumice stone to those feet, woman! When was the last time we were
able to indulge in this treat, and actually getting two coats of polish and a clear
coat on every single toe? We don’t remember, do we?
5. Get ourselves to the kitchen and eat ALL THE SNACKS.
those bags, crunch those chips or eat the ice cream right out of the container!
For once, we don’t have to sneak our snacks!
6. Crank up our jam and dance.
Those songs we don’t play when the
kids are around because they have bad words in them? Don’t just play them,
blast them and sing along. Hell, get naked if we want to. (Just watch out for
7. Finish reading that book, watching that movie or making that
Whatever it is that we put aside the last time we were briefly alone,
dig it out and finish it. Savor the pleasure of doing something we love
It’s OK, we can miss them.
It’s hard sometimes, balancing the fierce love we have for them with the
fierce desire to a life—and some time—for ourselves. Don’t feel guilty for
enjoying this time instead of going through our checklists. Make the absolute most of it. And when they come home, give
them a great big hug and tell them we missed them. The best part of being
alone is being reminded why we don’t want to be alone all the time.