After all, moms need to give themselves a break and, let's be honest, just hang out in underwear sometimes.
Simonian talks to Mom.me about her new book, which hits
shelves today, and offers her frank yet funny and focused tips for getting back to your organized self after Baby. She also reveals
the advice she gives her girls to boost their confidence, and who she’d love to
have lunch with—and we can guarantee she isn’t the only one!
First of all, congrats on
your new book! Was that like a third child for you?
Yes! This book is absolutely like a third baby. It's
also been my most difficult baby. Putting my guts and soul on paper in such a
permanent way got a bit terrifying once I started finding out that people are
actually reading my work. Every time someone emails me, "I ordered
it!" or posts on social media, "I'm reading it!" I get nervous!
The fantasy of writing a book and actually doing it are as different as night
and day. I'm thrilled that this goal actually came true, but at the same time
it's required so much more work and perseverance than I ever imagined.
Describe the moment
when you were inspired to write "The Fab Mom's Guide."
I think the moment was gradual. I've had "Become
an Author" listed as one of my life goals since college, but I never knew what
I'd write about until after having my second baby. For starters, I was
petrified to become a mom the first time around. When my second daughter was
born (when my first baby was a year and a half), I found myself feeling
in-control, happy and still like "me" with two babies under the age of 2
(although things did turn crazy once my little one started walking).
of my babies, I rarely found myself feeling the chaos of the lifestyle change
that a lot of new moms feel. I was setting and doing certain daily goals
around my house (like spending as much time in my underwear, committing to
making my bed every day, doing career-related projects during their naps), and
all of these things were "bouncing me back" in mind and spirit, which then boosted
my confidence and capability as a new mom. So, I figured, why not write a book
about my own fear of motherhood and how setting all sorts of weird goals around
my new lifestyle built my own confidence, resilience and focus as a new mom?
That's what "FAB" stands for: "focused after babies."
You are also a journalist
and a mom of two young daughters. What's your secret to getting it all done?
I don't think I'll ever "get it all done" (I have an
endless to-do list right now)! But I do make an effort to think and move fast—no joke. One of my most powerful mantras as a mom is, "If you take care
of the seconds and minutes, the hours will add up." That philosophy has
served me well with career goals as well as daily home life. Working moms do not
have a single second to waste mulling over decisions or wondering if we made
the right choice for this or that. If I have a list of to-do's, I prioritize
according to urgency, make a decision and take action fast, and then do not
doubt myself once the decision is made. Get things done, then move on.
When did you first
This book has definitely made me feel legitimate as a
"parenting lifestyle expert." I started shaking when I first got an
envelope of advanced reader copies in the mail back in January! But I also
felt an extreme jump of success when I started working for CBS Los Angeles a
little more than a year ago. They hired me to do once-a-week segments
discussing parenting topics, and soon boosted it to twice a week. I get weepy
every time I walk into the studio these days because taking my "Fab
Mom" brand to television was one of the reasons why I started blogging
back in 2011. I still can't believe my crazy plan worked!
As a successful female
author and TV personality, what are some ways that you want to teach your
kids about "girl power"?
My big thing lately is reminding my girls about their
confidence and to encourage them to do things their way. "It doesn't
matter how other people do it—do it YOUR way!" I tell them that whether
they're coloring, playing with Legos or just acting out the movie "Trolls."
Growing up, my parents had very traditional jobs (a dentist and a teacher), and
I was the one who went off the beaten path to work in entertainment and media.
I learned that the only way to succeed at something in uncertain territory was
to have unabashed confidence in myself, no matter how I really felt on the
inside (believe it or not, I struggled with confidence a lot until after I had
my babies). If I can teach my girls to tap into their own confidence, listen to
themselves early on and do things their way without doubt, that will give
them all the "girl power" they'll ever need.
Has there been anything
about writing "The Fab Mom's Guide" that surprised you
or inspired you in a way you didn't expect?
I didn't expect it to involve so much self-doubt and
serious hustle! I love writing (and genuinely had a great time revisiting all
the funny stories with celebrities and anecdotes from my own life during that
first year of motherhood), but the real work begins after the book is done and
when it's time to promote. I am freaking out about the launch date, and sales numbers, and whether or not enough outlets will be talking about it.
I'm scared that some people might disagree with certain parts of the book
(namely, the part where I suggest that new moms opt out of nursing if they want
to make their new-mom lives more organized and manageable). The good news is
that I've gotten a lot of positive feedback, so that makes me feel better!
What's your advice for moms
who are looking to write their own book?
(Think again! Just kidding.) My biggest advice is: Don't
wait, just do. This goes for anything, really—writing a book, finding a new
job, having a party at your home, making that semi-complicated roasted chicken
recipe that you've had your eye on for a few weeks. I call it bungeeing—make
a move and dive right in, even if you're not sure if you're ready to or not.
Half the battle is starting, so conquer that battle before you stop yourself
from doing it because you don't think it's the right time. It's never the right
What sacrifices have you
made as a mom and career professional to keep everything in
One of the things I talk about in my book is taking a
step back from my career—and being OK with it—the first few years of
motherhood. Even though I've been working full-time hours lately launching the
book, I've found that my magic combo for happiness is working part-time. I feel
most content when I have bits and pieces of both worlds—being a working mom
(because I love my job!) and a stay-at-home mom (cleaning my kitchen actually
If you could have lunch with any business
person/mogul/entrepreneur living or dead, who would it be and
I'm always curious about the fails that
successful people experience before they get to where we see them now, and how
they figure out alternative paths to where they want to go when people tell
them "no" (maybe that's why I have a tab that says "Fail" on my blog). I'd be
curious to pick Kris Jenner's brain. Whatever you may think about her or her
family (I myself have a lot of conflicting thoughts), I think she is fascinating
as a mastermind businessperson who also happens to be a mother.