working moms are riddled by guilt for not spending every second of the day with
their children. While normal, it's not healthy and totally unproductive. When
was the last time feeling guilty really helped you be a better mom? Exactly.
That’s why it’s time for you to make a change.
me, I know it’s not easy. At times, I have spent too much time away from my
family due to work. When my daughter was 2 years old, I even had to spend
almost a week in Los Angeles every month because I got a TV show hosting job
that was a dream come true in many ways. Well, to be honest, in many ways but
one. It required being away from my kids. It was heart wrenching. My daughter
would turn off the TV when my show would come on and say she hated it. Tapings
moved to my hometown after a year, thank goodness.
good news is that there are many things you can do to manage your mami
guilt. Here are a few tips:
Focus on what you are doing
for your family and yourself. If you look at the big picture, the small things
fall into place and it is easier to feel a sense of achievement rather than
failure at trying to be everywhere at all times.
limits so when you are with your kids you are 100 percent with them. If you won’t be able to
be 24/7 with your children, then make sure that during the time you are
together, they have your full attention. That means limiting calls, not
checking your email unless there is a true emergency.
to ask for help. Many moms think they can do it all on their own. The
scary part is that they may even succeed at it, but at a great personal cost.
Find people you trust that can lend you a hand when you’re in a bind.
if your kids are really showing signs of distress. If they are well
adjusted, doing well at school and are not acting out, take a deep breath and
save your energies for juggling all your responsibilities. If there are true
signs that your family is suffering, it’s time to rethink your priorities and
figure out what you can change before it becomes a major problem.
that not because you can do it all, does it mean you should. Allow yourself to
feel overwhelmed at times (hey, you’re only human!) but then realize you are
not only providing for your family, but also setting an example of how we play
many roles that contribute to society in different ways. Plus, if you’re doing
the best you can, make peace with yourself. You’ll be happier and your kids
will be, too.