And moms tend to be the go-to person for doing dishes, folding laundry, making
lunches and chauffeuring the children from appointments to
play dates, not to mention a boatload of other things that must be done to keep a house
Now a recent study published in the Journal of Family and Economic Issues is
suggesting that this sort of domestic “inequality” is a recipe for
Using data from the 2011 Canadian Work, Stress, and Health Survey, researchers from the University of Toronto and the University of Melbourne found
that when a mother perceives her parenting division as unfair or feels trapped
in her role as primary caregiver, the quality of the relationship she has with
her partner deteriorates. This is especially true for women working part-time who would prefer to spend more time at work.
The demands are so intense, in fact, that a lot of women surveyed feel compelled to limit their employment
to part-time or quit their jobs altogether. Often, the decision to give up a
career, coupled with the pressure to assume the bulk of the parenting, causes
a mother to become dissatisfied. As a result, the relationship quality between
she and her partner suffers.
Simply put, when
household responsibilities are equally distributed between parents—regardless
of a mothers' employment status—the marriage is better.
we need to do now is flip a coin to see which one of us is going to clean the bathroom.