In the summer of 2014,
Tanis Jex-Blake, a 33-year-old mother of five from Canada, did something she
never thought she'd do: took a deep breath, threw on a bikini and took her kids
to the beach. Later that day,
she posted a message on Facebook (which has since been taken down), directed at the "2 guys and 1 girl"
who chose to humiliate her in front of her children.
if my first attempt at sun tanning in a bikini in public in 13 years 'grossed you out,'" she wrote.
that my stomach isn't flat and tight. I'm sorry that my belly is covered in
stretch marks. I'm not sorry that my body has housed, grown, protected, birthed
and nurtured five fabulous, healthy, intelligent and wonderful human beings.
I'm sorry if my 33-year-old, 125-pound body offended you so much that you felt
[like] pointing, laughing and pretending to kick me," she wrote, adding that she hopes one day those three people will "realize that my battle scars are something to be proud of, not ashamed
It wasn't long
before her emotional message caught the attention of a local radio show, and
107 shared it on their Facebook page, followers reacted—passionately.
A lady from Sherwood Park named Tannis posted this pic yesterday, with the following message.... "This is an open letter to the 2 guys and 1 girl who decided to skip work today in Sherwood Park...
Photograph by Facebook
women of all shapes and sizes have come forward to share images of their own stretch marks and to swap stories about their own imperfectly perfect bellies. Hayley Garnett, who
recently gave birth to twin girls Ruby and Ramona, is one of them. She also has an older son
named Archer who—like most small children—is no stranger to brutal honesty.
One morning, her
son caught a glimpse of her mom bod and asked what was wrong with her belly. Instead
of letting her emotions get the best of her, she transformed his question into
a beautiful lesson by sharing this photograph, along with her thoughtful
response, on Instagram:
"All of my
babies leave marks on my belly so that I never forget for a second that I grew
them in my body all on my own and that they exist earthside with me now!"
Happy one week birthday, ladies ! This morning Archer asked me what's wrong with my belly and I told him that all of my babies leave marks on my belly so that I never forget for a second that I grew them in my body all on my own and that they exist earthside with me now! A forever reminder, whether I'm truly confident having these marks or not, it's no doubt a testament to the miracles my body has made ❤️. . . . . . .
reminder," she continued, "whether I’m truly confident having these
marks or not, it’s no doubt a testament to the miracles my body has made."
have accused the young mom/photographer of "intentionally editing her photo to make the marks look
excessive,” Garnett told ABC
News that it seems like a silly accusation.
to share the story because I habitually try to share a lot of personal feelings
through my Instagram page because I really believe that showing your
vulnerability is not only a healing process but also has the ability to really
connect you with an individual or community in a way you may not have thought
possible," she said. "I hoped that being open and honest about the
marks that twin pregnancy gave me would give other moms the courage to actually
accept themselves and maybe see their own marks in a different, more positive
Fad diets, size-0 models ... our society practically encourages body hatred. How can you help your daughter see her own beauty? “Moms can be overwhelmed with all the information out there,” says Jess Weiner, author of Life Doesn’t Begin 5 Pounds from Now. “But it’s important to talk about self-esteem, because six out of 10 girls will stop doing something they love because of the way they feel they look.” It’s time to get real about body image.