Let's face it: Having kids is a drain on one's social life. There's hardly enough time in the day to feed your children, get them to school, carpool for soccer practice, monitor homework, etc. And the idea of having enough energy — after tucking them into bed and reading the same story five times over — to throw on cute clothes and pumps before heading out for a cocktail with the girls? Ain't nobody got time for that.
But a recent article in The New Yorker highlights what one woman is doing to change the way mother's connect with each other. Hillary Frank is the host of the bi-weekly WNYC parenting podcast "The Longest Shortest Time," which is described as a "3 a.m. bedside companion for parents." A previous topic of discussion includes, "What Does Your Breast Pump Say to You?"
"Over and over, I hear 'It's hard to make mom friends!'" Frank told The New Yorker. "It's such a vulnerable time. You're suddenly in charge of this person, and you don't want to screw it up. You need support."
So Frank came up with the idea for her first live event: Speed Dating for Mom Friends. For a $25 admission, attendees got a cocktail, snacks and a chance to mingle with dozens of other moms looking for pals. About 60 women showed up to the Brooklyn venue. Women came from East Harlem, Williamsburg, even as far as Pittsburg.
After the event, the mothers were invited to take photos with their new buddies in a photo booth. But by this point, the reality of parenting was setting in.
"It was nice to meet you," one woman reportedly said to her table mate. "I've got to go home and feed my baby."