Julia Stiles officially joined the mommy club in October when she gave birth to her son, Strummer Newcomb Cook. It didn't take long for her to find out that membership tends to come with some quite unpleasant shaming too. The truth is, you just can't escape the sanctimommies.
The "Save the Last Dance" and "10 Things I Hate About You" star posted a photo of her babywearing Strummer last week with the front-facing, star-print Tula baby carrier.
"I haven't worn a backpack since middle school. Now I have a front pack," she joked.
So sweet, right? Apparently not everyone thought so.
Among all the congratulatory and positive messages were some strongly critical ones (some of which have since been deleted, maybe by Stiles or the commenters themselves). Criticisms ran the gamut from Stiles using the carrier incorrectly to even using one at all. Arguments ensued among commenters over whether or not the feet should be in froggy position or out and dangling, whether the baby's head was well supported and the carrier was adjusted correctly, or if there was enough space for baby to breathe.
In 2015, Ryan Reynolds was also shamed for his babywearing photo, to which he admitted, "The baby's not properly secured in the vessel that I'm wearing there. ... I'm a first-time dad, and that is not the first mistake I've made. I can guarantee you it won't be the last."
While Stiles' fans and other parents came to her defense, Stiles herself ended up posting a response this past weekend.
"It was brought to my attention that in the previous photo I am not holding my baby correctly. Wow, I didn't expect that. What was supposed to be a shoutout of products I like, suddenly becomes an invitation to comment on my baby and my ability as a mother. That's the internet for you, the carnivorous plant from 'Little Shop of Horrors,'" she wrote.
Stiles also added that she was trying to keep her son's image private, including his feet, for the photo just taken at home. The mom doesn't usually carry Strummer around like that.
Then, she pulled a Chrissy Teigen and clapped back.
"Thanks for the concern, anyway. Yes, Mothers, always read the safety instructions. But also, Instagrammers: Instead of writing snarky comments about a 5-week-old, try dancing around your living room to a Clash record. It's way more fun."
Might we suggest listening to The Clash's song "Train in Vain," which says, "But you don’t understand my point of view / I suppose there’s nothing I can do."