Heather Barwick grew up in the '80s and '90s with two moms. Her birth mother and father divorced when she was young, and Barwick grew up in a tight-knit community of gay and lesbian friends. But now, as a heterosexual, married mother of four, she no longer supports the notion that a second mom in the household could ever replace a child's need for his or her father.
In this case, the lost father didn't bother coming around after the divorce with Barwick's mother, and she is quick to note, "I still feel like gay people are my people."
Nonetheless, with a loving second mom and an absentee father, Barwick's stance against gay marriage may be a little confusing for readers, especially because she embraced the idea of same-sex marriage up into her 20s.
"I'm writing to you because I'm letting myself out of the closet: I don't support gay marriage. But it might not be for the reasons that you think."
Barwick looks to her own nuclear family as a way to support her stance, writing that "it's only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting."
Further, and without any proof, Barwick also writes that "by and large, the best and most successful family structure is one in which kids are being raised by both a mother and father."
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