Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard got real about marriage, revealing that they regularly visit a counselor to prevent problems before they start.
"You do better in the gym with a trainer; you don't figure out how to cook without reading a recipe. Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about," Bell told Good Housekeeping.
The couple, who have two daughters together (Lincoln, age 2, and Delta, 4 months), married almost two years ago and have attended couples' therapy from close to the beginning — and swear by it.
But they want other couples to know: Seeing a therapist together not necessarily a negative thing.
"I noticed an actor and her husband on [a recent cover of a celebrity tabloid] that said, 'In Couples' Therapy!' The clear message is, 'Oh, their marriage is ending.' There's such a negative connotation," Shepard told the magazine. "In my previous relationship, we went to couples' therapy at the end, and that's often too late. You can't go after nine years and start figuring out what patterns you're in."
Bell revealed that she "used to have a temper" and "loved slamming doors." Shepard, on the other hand, had worked through past issues and didn't want to deal with problems that way, she added.
That's part of why they enlisted a therapist to help.
"There may be something that really hurt your feelings that you're scared to bring up," Bell said. "Go talk about it with a therapist who can mediate. You'll walk out of the room feeling like you're [on the same] team."