Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's chief operating officer and the author of the working mom manifesto "Leaning In," published on Facebook her first comments about the death of her husband and the grief she bears.
In the honest and raw statement, she speaks of her own sadness and the help she has sought and accepted in managing each day as widow and mother. She speaks of recognizing others' discomfort in trying to comfort her. She details her own realizations of what grief means for an individual, how platitudes don't help—no matter how well-intended. And she's angry, still angry. She doesn't want to accept Plan B for raising her kids; she still wants Plan A.
Last month, Sandberg's husband, Dave Goldberg, died from head trauma while on vacation. The Survey Monkey CEO was only 47.
Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband—the first thirty days.
Sandberg writes that her perspective has changed, and that she has a new understanding.
"I have learned gratitude. Real gratitude for the things I took for granted before—like life. As heartbroken as I am, I look at my children each day and rejoice that they are alive. I appreciate every smile, every hug. I no longer take each day for granted."