Trigger Warning: this article discusses, in detail, an instance of domestic violence.
Emma Murphy, 26-year-old mom of two young children, used a YouTube video to expose her partner's domestic violence offenses against her. In this video we see her 18-month-old son playing in the background while Murphy details the events leading up to her posting this video, all while sporting a black eye she says she was given by her partner during a disagreement.
"I thought long and hard about this," Murphy said in the video, "I need to raise awareness to other women out there."
Emma had been in a relationship with "the love of her life" for last three and a half years and admits they had their ups and downs. She describes the last year of their relationship, which grew rocky after she discovered he had been cheating on her with one of his clients at the gym where he works.
Murphy states she tried to forgive him, and give him another chance, but recently found out he was having another affair.
"So I went and confronted him," she explains through her tears, "and he denied it of course ... When I threw his phone, he punched me in the face." According to Emma, this wasn't his first offense. He had previously pushed her, splitting her head open.
"After Friday's events, I finally realized that, no, this is not acceptable. No man has any right to put his hand on a woman ... and it's only now that I've realized that."
Almost 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men are victims of violence at the hands of their partner.
Emma recently left her partner and found comfort and protection with her family. She concludes her video with a message for women who are victims of domestic violence: "Find the courage and get away from anything that's as unhealthy as violence." she urges, "Go to you friends and family, people who love you, who care about you. If it's not safe, you have to [walk away]."
Since she posted her video to YouTube on Monday, July 6th, her video has received over half a million views and has gotten the attention of several major news outlets.
Emma's partner, Francis Usanga, has since denied that he is a violent person. "Yes I did push her. I pushed her, I didn't punch her. It was just the force," he told the Irish Sun in an interview. "I did sleep with someone else. But I did not punch and I absolutely did not split her head open."
Conversations around the Internet are being started concerning domestic violence since Emma's video went viral and Emma reports she has received support from around the world, as well as women stepping forward and sharing their stories with her.
Almost 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men are victims of violence at the hands of their partner, according to the Intimate Partner Violence Surveillance report published by the CDC. Violence between intimate partners is common, and the CDC says the key to effecting change to these statistics is prevention aimed at encouraging health habits in dating relationships.
If you or someone you know is the victim of domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 to have a confidential conversation with one of the trained advocates who are available 24/7. If you feel you are in immediate danger, call 911 right away.