When Georgia mom of two Jessica Kirkland posted an open post on Facebook about Anna Duggar, wife of scandal-mired Josh Duggar, she had no idea how far it would reach. In her letter, the suburban mom pleads with fellow parents to raise their daughters to respect themselves so they don't ever get stuck in the same position Anna Duggar is in right now—staying by the side of her husband even after he confessed to molesting minors and cheating on her. Clearly this message struck a chord with many people, as it has over 436,000 likes as of this writing.
Once Josh Duggar's name was released as one of many in the massive Ashely Madison hack, many people expected it to be the straw that broke the camel's (aka Anna's) back. Instead, Anna has chosen to remain steadfast to her husband. And this is what Kirkland could not stay quiet about, stating that "Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now"—mainly, thanks to her parents.
"Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward—a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her 'duty' of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. 'Be this,' they told her. She was. It wasn't enough."
We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this.
And even if Anna did want to leave her husband, Kirkland highlights how difficult it would be not only due to her religious convictions, but because it would be impossible to support her kids since she "she has no education and no work experience to fall back on." The Southern mom continues, "Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: Somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back."
The lesson for other parents, she says, is obvious. "Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren't given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don't have to marry a man their father deems 'acceptable' and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE."
She implores for parents to educate and empower young girls and to "give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must" and to "instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say 'I don't deserve this, and my children don't deserve this.'"
Kirkland concludes, "I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I'll raise them to think they breathe fire."