First, it was the nerve of a fellow restaurant patron, who stared at Kaidel for nursing her son publicly and uncovered. The woman made it clear she didn't approve by shaking her head and making disapproving faces.
Kaidel stared back.
Kaidel struck another nerve—actually, nearly 400,000 nerves—this time on Facebook, where she posted a picture of her nursing her baby, mid-staredown.
Photograph by Facebook
And she wrote this explanation, for the post, for the staredown, for popping out her boob and latching on her son without fear, without shame, without reservation:
"I don't mean to say 'Everyone should breastfeed without a cover. Show the world your boobs!' If a mother is more comfortable covering herself because SHE feels better doing so, then I totally support that.
"With that being said, the reason I post these types pictures is for the mother that tried breastfeeding uncovered once and she got shamed, she got stared and pointed at, she got nasty comments, she got asked to leave the room, she got asked to cover up.
"Number one, breastfeeding mothers are protected under federal law to breastfeed any way, any how and any where they're allowed to be in all circumstances otherwise. Number two, you should not ever feel shamed, belittled, embarrassed or wrong for feeding your baby the way nature intended. I do this for the person that has the mentality 'Boobs are to be covered. They're for your husband's eyes only. They're intimate. It's a personal/private thing to feed your baby. Cover up out of respect. My kids don't need to see that. Walk out of the room.' and any other derogatory, close-minded comments and sentiments alike.
"Secondly, it is exponentially unfair and selfish to ask a mother and baby to exclude themselves from a table or event or gathering because you're for some reason uncomfortable with how she feeds her child. No person should be isolated and shunned because they're eating, especially when you yourself are eating while ridiculing how someone else is eating. Is it not certainly easier to avert your eyes from a displeasing sight rather than suggest or demand a mother and child remove themselves from your presence? How pompous and selfish is this? Just look away. It's simple to do so. No harm done at all.
"Lastly, your children need to see breastfeeding for the same reason you do."
Kaidel signs her post, "A badass breastfeeding (uncovered) mama"—which she most definitely is.
Her response to the aggravated woman at a nearby table has made international headlines, she's been featured in People magazine and she has started plenty of conversations around nursing in public, with most concluding: Eating is eating. Right?