This is a question
Katie Crenshaw has been asked countless times after friends and family meet her
7-month-old daughter Charlie. Charlie was born with a capillary hemangioma, a
large strawberry birthmark, on her face.
Katie decided to make
a bold statement about defending her daughter's illness by posting a blog post
that soon went viral.
"The reason why I
wanted to call attention to it is because I did recognize that everyone had
good intentions, but I wanted people to recognize that intent might not get you
very far sometimes," Kate told ABC News.
The Atlanta area
mother of two went on to explain, "Even though they mean well, they needed
to think about the words they're saying when they say, 'I hope it goes away,'
or 'I pray it's different.' I wouldn't walk up to someone and say, 'I'm praying
that your child's ears gets smaller.'"
Since writing her blog
post Katie said she has received "dozens" of supportive emails from
families going through similar situations as well as negative comments, asking
why she and her husband Tyler chose not to remove the birthmark.
"It's not just a
mole you can scrape off," Crenshaw, 29, said. "Charlie's hemangioma
is kind of intertwined and weaved around some muscles and behind her eye. Hers
isn't the kind you can remove. It is not a threat to her health in any way and
so unnecessary surgery wouldn't have been an option for us. And the nature of
this kind of birthmark is that it'll eventually ... shrink on its own so I
didn't think to rush that process."
Although this is a
rough patch that careful mothering can impact, Katie doesn't believe that her
daughter will be affected permanently by the questions about her appearance.
visually different that ... is not a guarantee that you're going to live this
tortured life. I don't believe that. I don't believe that ... she's going to be
bullied or picked on," she added.