Dan Majesky of Cincinnati shared the most beautiful, heartfelt pregnancy announcement with a sonogram photo—but it wasn’t your typical pregnancy announcement.
If you’ve never experienced infertility, you may not know about the minutiae of all the things you go through. And if you’re lucky enough to end up a parent at the end of the journey, there is no greater gift.
Although his announcement, posted on Facebook, is more than 3,300 words long, it’s definitely worth reading the entire thing.
Majesky chronicles the struggle he and wife Leah have been through on the road to becoming parents that started three years ago.
Between hormone injections, insurance, a dwindling egg supply, IUI (that’s intrauterine insemination, for the uninitiated), waiting, testing, disappointment—all on repeat—and then miscarriage, it’s one rough road to travel.
And when that first glimmer of hope in the form of a flickering heartbeat on an ultrasound disappears, it is absolutely soul-crushing.
"No one gets on Facebook and tells their friends. It’s specifically why you wait to tell anyone,” Majesty wrote about the couple’s experience losing a baby. "But then you have no one to tell. When a family member dies, you can share your grief. With a miscarriage, you would have to tell people that someone who will never be born, who they had never heard of and will never meet, but who meant the world to you, is gone. And you don’t have the strength to get into it. You tell your parents, maybe a close friend, maybe your boss."
Then as you continue to struggle and see others experiencing the joys of parenthood, sometimes it’s almost too much to bear, Majesky wrote.
“You see your friends getting pregnant, and you get a little sad. But you get mad at yourself because you want to feel happy for other people, and that’s not fair to them. And then the 17-year-old across the street gets pregnant, and you get a little sadder. And your cousins get pregnant, and you get a little sadder. And you see people scream at their kids, and beat them in Kroger, and you just want to die because you would give anything to have a child throwing a tantrum in the cereal aisle."
Then, one day, his wife took an at-home pregnancy test and the faintest line showed up—and they were pregnant. They had their first obstetrician appointment and discovered they’re having a girl, and she’ll be born in November.
The happy dad’s Facebook post has been shared more than 4,300 times and has more than 40,000 likes.