Brad Kearns comes off as a little sexist in a viral Facebook post about how hard it is to take care of his two young kids by himself.
He means well. He's trying to celebrate all that his wife does while she's away at the hospital being treated for a liver condition. But he keeps begging the universe to no longer make him the mom, imploring #iwanttobeadadagain. Because moms stay home all day, every day. They get up in the middle of the night every hour on the hour. They wear sweatpants and have bad hair. And it's hard.
After walking into a dirty house to take over as "mum," Kearns, 27, makes crappy instant noodles for his older child and ends up awake all night with his infant son. No respite.
"I got the kids ready for the day and planned my attack on the domestic duties. And by that, I mean I spent the next 2 hours in the lounge room holding Finn, in a spiral of insomnia-induced hallucinations, allowing Knox to help himself to an assortment of fruit sticks, K-Time Twists and Sa-Ka-Ta's until he eventually retreated to his train set."
Then, his mother-in-law shows up.
"It was in that moment, I knew I was defeated," he wrote. "It was also in that moment, I knew she knew I knew I was defeated. A vulnerability we try our best to keep from our in-laws. That was only 16 hours of being a mum. And I failed."
Look, the Kearns family is facing some tough times. And stay-at-home moms with no support (including no savior mother-in-laws) everywhere would like people to know that it's grueling, exhausting work. It's not meant for one person to do alone. Is Sarah, Kearns' wife, typically doing everything alone? She shouldn't be.
He may want to be the dad again, so he can escape to the compartively light responsiblities of a day job. But may we suggest, for the good of everyone—Sarah, the boys, his Facebook followers—that he instead promise to start #parentingasapartner?