Face, we're going to need a bigger palm. Just when you think people have learned to stop pitting working moms against stay-at-home moms, someone has to come and screw everything up.
Anna Strode shot to fame for obtaining some serious abs just eight months after giving birth. She's now known for her workout videos, fitness advice for moms and day-to-day fun with her twin boys on her @bubs2bikinis Instagram.
Most of her content and interaction with other moms have been positive and inspirational, but recently Strode received a comment on her page that cut deep.
"It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK,'" Strode recounted.
This got the Australian mom, who is expecting another baby in July, fired up.
"Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22-month-old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?!" she writes.
Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt. It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK...' Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! Just to break it down... I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day! Other days we're so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts we've learnt. I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn't even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn't even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON'T 'just play happily and entertain each other all day!' For the record, TWINS don't do that!!! Maybe when they're older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no - I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them! Cont. in comments 👇👇
Strode details how, contrary to what people might think from her Instagram (News flash: Instagram is nothing like real life), the mom barely has time to exercise with everything she has to do for her two little humans. And when she does make time, it's usually 20 to 30 minutes a day, with her having to stop about 20 times throughout to say, break up sibling fights or fetch toys.
Strode's clapback was so intense, she had to continue her post in the comments.
"BUT—I do it because I LOVE it. We are NOT rich! Me staying at home with our children means we have to GO WITHOUT a LOT of things!" she writes. "I've worked hard to grow this Instagram page, hours upon hours with children crawling all over me trying to get content filmed, videos edited and blog posts written—so it can contribute financially to our family."
Before becoming a mom, Strode worked in high management roles in marketing. And although it was tough, she says it's nothing like the demands of motherhood.
"When someone implies my life is EASY because they go to work and I don't—it upsets me. ... PLEASE I'm begging you, NEVER underestimate HOW HARD 'stay at home' mums WORK! We do it because we love it but we often do it with tears rolling down our faces, our heads in our hands crying and with a huge sense of loneliness from the adult world too!" she writes. "I'm not saying that I or someone works harder than another, what I'm saying is we ALL work hard! One thing I know for sure though is I'm glad I chose this job and I wouldn't change a thing. This job is hard but it is by far the MOST rewarding."
The Instagram fitness guru has never been afraid to show the realities of motherhood. Strode has made several headlines in the last year, including the time she revealed a photo of herself with both a six-pack and loose skin, calling it perfection.
2 pictures taken moments apart. The pic on the right is one that might resemble what you see as you scroll your Instagram feed each day. The pic on the right probably reminds you of the ones you think you could never possibly share with the world. Polar opposites ~ but guess what, I've decided that both pictures MAKE ME PROUD. Everyday we are surrounded by images that are supposed to represent 'perfection' but why can't the pic on the left represent perfection too?! The pic on the left represents what my body is capable of ~ growing 2 babies, yes! Little humans that have come into the world and made me the happiest mumma in the whole wide world! It's not easy for me to do this, I promise you as I post this I am no joke absolutely shit*ing myself but the reason I'm doing this is to show you we're ALL REAL! We all have things we wish we could change, it's easy to get caught up in the perfect world of social media but DON'T! Because behind every image is someone that has things they wish they could change too. Be proud, be kind, love your body for what it has done. Stretch marks, loose skin, bellies and saggy boobs - embrace it mummas because you are BEAUTIFUL 💕🙌😋
And just last month, her side-by-side photo of pregnancy on Instagram vs. pregnancy IRL went viral.
"I'm a REAL mama, with REAL pregnancy cravings and REAL battles of accepting how my body changes throughout life's journeys," she wrote.
Instagram Pregnant Life VS Real Pregnant Life... 😂😂 I'm all about BALANCE! Sure, you might look at my page and see images like the left and think this mama works out all the time and she must eat healthy all the time... Well I'm here to tell you NO 🙅that's not how things go and I don't believe anyone should live without a little bit of life's indulgences! The image on the right (that Rhett so glamorously snapped 😂) represents me a few nights a week and I think it's just as important to share as the one on the left. I'm a REAL mama, with REAL pregnancy cravings and REAL battles of accepting how my body changes throughout life's journeys. We've only got ONE life - I encourage you to find a HAPPY, HEALTHY, SUSTAINABLE BALANCE 🙌😀
Strode didn't have to explain herself to Instagram trolls, but we're kind of glad she did.