Life hands us many surprises, doesn't it? Like how I never saw myself as a nurse until the first day of nursing school, or how I found out a few weeks ago that I'm not as scared of snakes as I once was, and how talking on the phone with a fertility doctor on the opposite end of the country
to come there to be knocked up with another women's eggs is like, not that big
of a deal.
We had our phone consult a couple weeks ago with
Dr. G. at the clinic in Texas which we were looking at for their frozen donor egg
program. He sounded really nice. Like, “Hey Dr. G., come have a
beer with us by the pool” nice. We were scheduled for the call at 5 p.m.,
but being that it was the end of the day, he didn't call us until 5:45, which
was perfect because it gave us time to rush in the door and get to the kitchen
table so we could have a productive conversation without being stuck in traffic
trying to take notes on the back of a receipt on my lap while in the car.
To sum up, we could begin the process right away,
and the success rates are just as good as the rates of our clinic here for a
fresh IVF cycle.
Two months ago we were reeling from our third failed IVF and now we have two options presenting themselves to us...
Beginning the process right away means we just have
to complete the required testing here in Minnesota (an ultrasound check and lab
work), complete the paperwork and choose a donor. There is no waiting
list. Also, the success rates being comparable to our donor program
up here is huge. He told us the donor coordinator and financial
coordinator would be in contact with us in the coming days and would give us
access to the donor profile lists. Just like that. It's enough to
make you want to shake your head and say, "Wait, what?"
Two months ago we were reeling from our third
failed IVF and now we have two options presenting themselves to us: a
fresh donor cycle at our clinic in the next seven months or so, and a frozen
cycle in another state by October. We, like the smart, money-conscious
we’re-not-that-desperate-for-a-baby-are-we?-people that we are, have decided to
move forward with both options. Crazy? Pah. Trust
me, in the five years we’ve spent trying to get pregnant, this is definitely
not the craziest thing we’ve ever done. Or maybe it is.
While we are waiting for the donor cycle here, we
are making plans, little by little, to travel to Texas in two months, all the
while not being a hundred percent sure of our decisions. Because I don't
think we will ever be a hundred percent sure. Not on something this
big. I don't think these decisions are something we could ever feel fully
and completely confident about. There will always be doubt, and uncertainty,
and many glasses of wine drunk together wondering how the hell our lives ever
turned out like this.