The babymoon is your last chance to get out into the world without a baby. Just you and your partner and your bulging belly. One more fling before you become a prisoner in your own home with a poopy, crying baby and a post-delivery body. Maybe you're the kind of person that thinks your entire life before children was a babymoon but I think every couple expecting their first child should get out of dodge and have a little intimacy time before it's all "Who's gonna change the diaper?" time. And "I hate your face" time. I don't actually have a baby yet—I'm still just incubating and you might be wondering how I could have such infinite wisdom on the subject?
First and foremost, I'm a traveler and I love vacations. Secondly, I asked all my friends with kids and they were like DO IT. If money is holding you back, you don't need to fly to Hawaii, but perhaps you can stretch your budget to stay in a nice hotel for one night in your town and get a couple's massage. Or go for a leisurely hike and picnic. Even just staying at home and watching your favorite shows or movies and having a cuddle can be romantic. Everyone keeps telling me that once Baby comes, relaxing evenings are over.
My husband and I tacked our babymoon on to a friend's wedding in San Francisco. We rented a lovely VRBO and spent all of our non-wedding time holding hands and wandering the streets and eating delicious treats. The second trimester is usually the best time to go since your puking/nausea should have abated and you aren't in total giant sloth mode (at least that is what I've heard). It's also safe to fly. So here's 10 reasons to take your slightly hefty butt on a babymoon.
If you go to the beach, you won't care what you look like in your bathing suit. You're with-child!
You can eat as much as you want and not worry about gaining weight over vacation, because you would be gaining it anyway. Might as well gorge yourself on fine foods at fancy restaurants instead of whatever is in your fridge.
If you have a second child, you might be too broke to take one next time you're pregnant so it really could be your last chance!
If you go to Disneyland, you can tell your baby that he/she has already been there in utero and spare yourself another trip.
If you go to Europe, no one will give you the stink-eye if you have a glass of wine while pregnant.
Your partner will probably be willing to participate in activities he might not normally do such as: High tea! Broadway musical! Diana Gabaldon book signing! Historical homes tour! Simply because he's all about indulging you. (Yes, my husband has been doing all of these things, bless his heart.)
If your partner can't go away with you for some reason, you can go with a friend or your mom, which is not technically a babymoon but it's a good chance for you to relax and you can call it a babymoon. I won't judge you.
If you pair it with another event like a wedding or family reunion, you can kill two birds with one stone. Extend the trip and make sure you have time for just the two of you, you can make it if you try.
You can go to some really family unfriendly place for possibly the last time for a long time, i.e., intimate French restaurant or nudist colony.
Enjoy some noisy sexy time, because after that baby starts sleeping you're not going to want to wake him with any, um, noises.
While the actual growing of the baby is all on you, your partner is probably freaking out. Dealing with your moods and the day to day stressors of getting ready to have life majorly altered means your love deserves a relaxing get away too. Vacations are the best and even if you can't afford to get away-away, spending quality romantic time with your child's parent-to-be is a great way to connect and remember why you're procreating with this person in the first place.
Did you go on a babymoon? Share your story in the comments below so other mamas-to-be can get some good ideas!