All week, I've been craving steak. It may be a little early in pregnancy to have a legitimate craving, but this mama needed steak nonetheless. Rather than fire up the grill, my sister offered to watch the kids so my husband and I could head out for a mini "Yay! We're Pregnant!" celebration—at a steakhouse, of course.
That morning I had announced on Facebook and Instagram that we were expecting our third baby and as we drove home with bellies full of ribeye, my husband asked if that was "normal"—announcing before we hear a heartbeat, before we hit the second trimester milestone.
My husband's inquiry launched our driving home conversation, because truly, why—at 6 weeks pregnant—does everyone know our little secret? Don't fret, I'll tell you. Here is why announcing our pregnancy early was the perfect thing for us:
1. I'm Excited, I Want You to Be Too
This third baby of ours is a miracle. A wonderful addition to our family and someone we hoped and prayed for very much. I'm excited! When I'm excited about something—a vacation, promotion or a milestone one of my children achieved—I want the world to know. Same goes for my pregnancy.
2. I Need Grace
Seeing that this is my third go-around, I know what's coming. Right now I'm just tired, but before I know it I'm going to be really tired and cranky and sick too. I need those around me to understand that it's not just me, it's me hyped up on first trimester pregnancy hormones. Give me grace when I snap or run late or can't make it to your party because I fell asleep at 6 p.m.
My people, my tribe, the ones who know me in person and online, they've been ushered into both the ugly and the beautiful of my life.
3. Life Is Precious
You get those pregnancy emails too, right? The ones that chart out exactly what's happening at your baby's stage of development? Isn't it amazing to read what's happening in those single-digit weeks of growth? Jeepers! At just 6 weeks, my little baby has a racing heartbeat; their eyes, mouth and nose are forming; and their brain, muscles and bones are taking shape. Life is precious and I celebrated the growth of my children, no matter how big or small.
4. It Felt Right
What's right for me may not be for you, but don't let "the rules" dictate when you announce your pregnancy. I texted family and friends less than an hour after I got a positive pregnancy test. Others in my circle found out in the following days, when I was barely 5 weeks pregnant. Officially, my entire social media circle learned of our impending bundle at 6 weeks. It felt right to share our joy and ask for prayers from the very beginning.
5. Transparency Builds Relationships
The thing I love most about motherhood is how common experiences bring us together. Pregnancy is often the highlight of that, since nothing can bring two women together like chats about heartburn and baby names. If I can jump into the pregnancy chatter a few weeks early, bring it on, I can't wait to be in the preggo circle again!
My husband nodded in agreement, "That all makes sense. I just didn't—you know. I mean, what if ..." and his voice trailed off not wanting to say "miscarriage" out loud.
Miscarriage is a common reality and I know that. But in the case that my pregnancy ends and I don't get to snuggle a baby come December, all those people I told? I'm going to need their support just as much as I'd need it in throughout a pregnancy. My people, my tribe, the ones who know me in person and online, they've been ushered into both the ugly and the beautiful of my life. I hope the vulnerability of that spectrum makes me real; someone who can share in your joys, someone who can give you grace when you need it and join with you in transparent community as we warrior on through motherhood.
And so, with overwhelming excitement and anticipation I shout from the rooftops: I'm pregnant! There is a baby in my womb and before you know it, I'll be giving birth! And this baby? I love him or her so much already! Six weeks of love is growing at an exponential pace and I'm absolutely honored to tell you all about it.