When I was pregnant with our first baby, we got everything we
thought we needed plus some. We acquired an enormous amount of baby clothes and
baby gear. (Who needs six strollers, five diaper bags and two travel cribs?)
As my daughter outgrew stuff, I wouldn't even consider selling it or giving
anything away because I wanted more babies. What a money saver it would be to
start with everything we needed for the next baby! So as my son outgrew baby
gear and clothes, I packed everything up again. You know, just in case (since
we hadn't decided for sure on having anymore kids.)
The amount of stuff grew exponentially. Of course, I needed to
keep girl clothes, boy clothes and neutral clothes too. Baby No. 3 would have all
the essentials covered. This seemed like a great idea until I started to cling
to all the baby stuff despite feeling like I was drowning in clutter.
The purging started slowly last fall. I justified reselling
some of my kids' clothes and toys at a consignment sale so I could use that
money to upgrade their wardrobes to the next size. It was basically trading in
their smaller clothes for larger sizes at the sale. I began to feel less guilty
as more spaced opened up in the nursery.
As we got ready for a big multi-family rummage sale, I dug
through my closet, storage boxes in the basement and even my kitchen cabinets.
Anything we weren't using and could part with had to go. All the baby gear
loomed over me. Do I keep it? We're trying to have another baby. That was my
excuse for keeping everything for years.
But what if we don't get
All that stuff began to take an emotional toll on me. I'm
already feeling less confident as each unsuccessful cycle goes by. I needed to
take some of the weight off of my shoulders. Purging baby stuff helped relieve
some of the pressure I was putting on myself. I needed to let it go.
Once I made the decision to get rid of a couple things, it
became easier. I still kept a couple bins of newborn and toddler clothes,
small baby toys and a few other items we still use. This way if our TTC
journey ends without a baby, I won't have to deal with a mountain of stuff
later. Besides, even if I got pregnant this month, we wouldn't need most of
that stuff. For now we're enjoying the space we reclaimed. Plus, one of my
favorite things to do when I get pregnant is to shop for the new baby.
How long did you hold onto your baby gear and clothes?