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The Case for Partner Push Prizes

I've only been having kids for the past three years, but my friends have been having babies for about a decade and I don't ever remember hearing anyone talk about push prizes. I'm totally not judging push prize enthusiasts, but I don't really get the point.

Why am I getting a gift? Because I pushed a baby out? Is it still considered a push gift if I have a C-section or adopt a baby? I am confused about the reasons behind push prizes, but one thing that really bugs me is how spouses aren't considered when it comes to new baby gifts.

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Think about it: If a mama expects a gift from her spouse, shouldn't it be implied that said spouse is playing an active and supportive role, too? The non-pregnant partners are also expecting a baby, so shouldn't both parents get gifts?

It's not my husband's fault that he can't give birth, so why should I get a gift? I mean, while I am physically the only one going through the pregnancy, I really couldn't do it without him. The guy's lucky he doesn't have to deal with labor pains—but he does have to deal with me. I could definitely get behind both of us giving and getting something meaningful from each other.

Don't get me wrong, we all like nice things. But if you've just got to spend money, I'm thinking something that will support the entire household is a better fit.

Some days I think he deserves some kind of reward.

Gifts are great, but I find experiences are better. Of course, every pregnant mama is different and not everyone is going to enjoy a spa treatment over a piece of jewelry. But, let's face it, the memories created by experiences last forever. Investing in a fun babymoon is a great gift for everyone; anything from a staycation to an international trip, traveling is the kind of gift that keeps on giving. In the end, you get special time with your spouse, memories are created and, if nothing else, you have some stories to share with your baby.

If money is a bit too tight for a trip, why not invest in maternity photos? A fun shoot that includes the spouse is a great gift for each other—and adds to your memories.

I am in no way diminishing the fact that having or adopting a baby is a big deal because, really, it is. But come on, guys, there's more than one way to celebrate a baby's arrival.

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Don't get me wrong, we all like nice things. But if you've just got to spend money, I'm thinking something that will support the entire household is a better fit. A meal service, a housekeeper or even giving the new mom a chance to pamper herself for a little bit are far better gifts than physical presents. Not to mention, those kinds of gifts will also be appreciated by spouses, whom I think deserve the love, too.

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