this is what makes news these days: A woman on a train was forced to stand
for an entire 30 minutes after a male passenger stole
her seat, openly laughed at her when she asked for it back, and rode the entire
time looking almost directly at her 34-week belly.
couldn't believe it. I am the size of a small house at the moment so he
couldn't have failed to see I was pregnant, he just didn't care at all,"
the pregnant 29-year-old Mhairi-Claire Doolan told The
Mirror. "I've had people sat in my seat before like that and
usually left it, but on this occasion I really needed the seat as my back ached
do I believe this story is perhaps just a tad dramatized? Probably. There's no
real medical reason why a healthy 29-year-old woman who is only 34 weeks
pregnant (a big difference in those last few weeks, all of us mothers know)
should be unable to stand for a whopping 30 minutes. And there's technically no
reason why this should even be news at all: "Gestating Woman Forced to Stand On
Her Own Two Feet for Less Time Than an Episode of 'Mickey Mouse Clubhouse'!"
the point is, I don't care how physically fit that pregnant woman is, I don't
care how perfectly capable she was of standing for half an hour or about the fact
that her back was aching.
When it comes right down to it, giving up your seat for a pregnant woman is more than about the simple physical act of standing or sitting.
Pregnancy is definitely not a disability, but I still believe that you sure as
heck better give up your seat to every pregnant woman. It's called respect and
common freaking manners, people.
that we're talking about this, I'm all fired up because this is one
of my biggest pet peeves. When did people start being so rude? How can anyone
just sit there and ignore a giant belly next to you in good conscience? I just
don't get it.
story reminds me of the time I was pregnant and on my honeymoon with my husband. (Yes, I was pregnant when we got married. Very good, Sherlock!) As we were
walking to board the bus from our resort that would take us in to town, a young
man sprinted by us, hit me in the arm and knocked me off balance to get to the bus first. He ended taking the last seat on the bus and I was
forced to spend the whole bus ride standing directly in front of him. My belly
was shoved in his face the entire ride because it was simply that packed on the
bus. It bugged me not because I was incapable of standing but because
I think it's just plain rude behavior.
the first things that attracted me about my husband is that he always, always gives up his seat in public to
pregnant women, the elderly and parents with small babies. In church, at the
airport, on buses—he doesn't even hesitate, and 9 out of 10 times, the person he
offers his seat up to is incredibly grateful because, sadly, people just don't
do this anymore.
about women's rights and not treating pregnancy as a disability, but I also
still believe in showing respect and recognizing that sometimes pregnancy is
freaking hard physical work. Even I give up my seat for pregnant women, the
elderly and anyone with small children and you better believe I am
teaching my kids to do the same. We all need a little help sometimes, and I
believe this says a lot about the type of person you are if you are willing to
take such a small gesture out of your day to think of the comfort of another
person for a few minutes of your life.
comes right down to it, giving up your seat for a pregnant woman is more than
about the simple physical act of standing or sitting. It's about a virtual and
actual nod of respect to motherhood.