Two months ago, my husband and I learned that I am pregnant with our third child. We have two daughters, both toddlers, so I have basically been pregnant or breastfeeding for the last four years of my life. Because of this, being pregnant is starting to feel like the norm to me. I officially feel more comfortable in my skin when pregnant.
With it being my third pregnancy, I shouldn't be surprised that my perspective and behaviors have changed a bit with time. But I was surprised by just how different I have felt and behaved this time around. In my opinion, third pregnancies are destined to be different from the first two pregnancies. Here are 7 ways my third pregnancy has set itself apart.
1. I don't know how far along I am 98 percent of the time.
Unless you happen to catch me with my planner in hand, chances are, I won't be able to answer when you ask how far along I am. When I was pregnant with my first, I always knew exactly where I was in my pregnancy, down to the day.
I don't really care about the size of my baby relative to a piece of fruit.
It isn't like I think I am an expert at this whole pregnancy, childbearing and caring for a newborn thing; it's that I spent so much time reading up on these topics during my first and second pregnancies that I'm now kind of burnt out. I don't really care about the size of my baby relative to a piece of fruit, and I now know that the only thing I can expect when expecting is that nothing will go as expected.
3. I'm kind of huge already.
I think my body must be becoming so familiar with being pregnant, because at 14 weeks I already look like I am well into my second trimester. I broke out my maternity jeans and have started to embrace my pregnant boy.
During my first pregnancy, my due date was this magical star on the calendar when I would become I a mom. And then my due date came and went. My obsession with my due date led to what was likely a completely unnecessary induction, so I am not really paying attention to it this time around. So if you ask me when I am due, I will probably respond with, "Sometime near the end of August, but probably the first week of September."
5. I am breaking a few rules.
I will be sipping on a half a glass of wine occasionally and completely ignoring lifting restrictions as I hoist my two toddlers into their car seats.
I am rule follower by nature, mostly because I am a people pleaser. I firmly believe there are some hard and fast rules you shouldn't be breaking during a pregnancy. So no, I won't be going out for drinks anytime in the next seven months, but I will be sipping on a half a glass of wine occasionally and completely ignoring lifting restrictions as I hoist my two toddlers into their car seats. And I'll be amazed if I make every prenatal appointment, because keeping two toddlers entertained in a doctor's office while having your cervix checked is no small feat.
6. I'm not in a hurry.
Don't get me wrong, I am definitely excited to add a new baby to our family. I am just not in a hurry to deliver this time around. I know what the newborn days are like; they are a precious time for bonding but also really, really hard. That's why I am not checking any days off my calendar or wishing away any portion of this pregnancy. I am simply enjoying it for what it is (OK, except for the morning sickness, that part sucks).
This has been my hardest pregnancy so far. I have been dealing with crazy food aversions, fatigue and throwing up way more than I did in either my first or second pregnancy. During my first pregnancy, I found myself sucking it up and powering through the work day and just surviving until bedtime. This time around, I am not apologizing for getting the rest I need.