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Feeling Good: Inside and Out

I still can't believe it's almost March. This year is going so fast, it's unreal. My bestie and I have a yearly tradition. At the beginning of the year, we schedule an hour FaceTime (she lives in N.Y. and I'm in L.A.) to discuss all of our resolutions and goals for the upcoming year. From then on, we hold each other accountable by giving pep talks and reminders throughout the year. It's a great way to feel like you are not in it alone!

Thinking long and hard, I realized there are so many things I want to improve this year. I want to expand my business, give back to my community, be more punctual, incorporate another language into our home, surround myself more with other like-minded people but most importantly, I want to GET MY SEXY BACK!

Now, I know it may sound kind of silly but it's true. Granted "sexy" can mean a lot of different things to different people but sexy for me is feeling good from the inside out. I have always felt sexy in my own skin—well, maybe not always. Middle school was rough: I was very tall, lanky and skinny. In high school, things started to fall in place but I still felt very awkward. College is when the magic happened and it all started to click. I finally began to feel good in my own skin. Fast-forward to two kids later and I swear I find myself looking in the mirror, asking, "Where did my sexy go?" Not because I am embarrassed by how I look on the exterior but more by how I feel inside. As a working mom and wife, what they say really is true: I have taken a back seat to everyone else. I feel more tired than ever, truly exhausted at the end of the day, sleep-deprived with very little time for me. This year it's time to change all that. I want to GET MY SEXY BACK and start to feel good from the inside out again!

I look at other super moms and I am in awe. How do they manage kids, a husband, a full time career and still manage to cook a meal each night? Who are these women? This year, it isn't about comparing myself to other fellow mamas. It's about finding what works for me. These are my tips on achieving balance and getting my sexy back.

Get more sleep.

Sleep is the foundation of all things. I used to sleep until noon on the weekends and would regularly take naps during the week, so you can imagine my full-on shock after having kids. Most nights, I put my girls down around 7 p.m. and don't make it to bed until midnight. The evenings are usually my only uninterrupted time to get any work done or spend time with the hubby. In the morning, my youngest is up around 5:30 a.m., ready to go. I realized shortly after becoming a mom that I need 8 hours of sleep a night to function properly the next day. It sounds like a lot but I've learned the hard way that I am a better wife and mommy with more sleep. To help combat sleep deprivation, I have committed to giving myself a bed time. I want to be realistic so I am starting off with 10 p.m. and if I need more, I will adjust accordingly.

Start working out.

I have never truly been a gym girl but I have always been very athletic. I played a ton of sports in high school, walked endlessly around my college campus outside of Chicago, then moved to NYC, where I walked blocks and avenues for hours going from appointments to appointments as a model and actress. Now I live in Los Angeles, where the most exercise I get is chasing my girls around. This year I have committed to start using deal apps like Groupon, LivingSocial or Class Pass to purchase different, fun, hip fitness classes that motivate me. I tried my first hip-hop class the other day and although I was totally clueless, I felt super energized and excited to do something for me.

Try new beauty products.

From my teenage years into adulthood, I struggled with acne. As a model, I was overly self-conscious and aware of the products that makeup artists used on my face. I would break out super easily so of course I stuck to the same products. After having my girls, my skin began to change for the better but I was still so nervous to introduce anything new. This year I am ready to expand my look and am more open to trying new products (hello serum, eye creams and anything anti-aging). Don't get me wrong, I still love my natural look but I'm encouraging myself to also add more pops of color every now and then.

Recite a mantra every morning.

From the moment I wake up, it's go time. Immediately, I am thrust into being mommy, wife and fulfilling career obligations. My goal this year is to take one minute before my feet hit the floor and remind myself this is the year to get my sexy back.

Follow along with me at ElizabethMxo.com as I tackle all of my New Year's resolutions, work through the ups and downs of staying consistent, and enjoy the mom life.

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