I'm fortunate enough to have two best friends, one who lives
locally and one who is halfway across the country. The local bestie and I met when our now 8 year olds were infants and
we were in a Mommy & Me group together. We've been thick as thieves since and our families have, too.
One of the reasons our families have grown so close is she
is a fabulous mom friend. It's different than
just a best friend with whom you can swap stories and bury each other's
skeletons; a great mom friend doesn't just have your back, she's got your entire
family's too. She's there for your kids and loves your kids as unconditionally as she does her own.
The truth is I've had a lot of close friends in my life, but none have ever been so special as the friends I've made through motherhood. My
mom friends are like a tribe, a tribe I couldn't live without. There isn't a mom I know who doesn't have her core group of
mom friend with whom she confides her secrets, asks for advice and celebrates
her successes. You probably do, right?
So you know your mom friends are great to you, but are you an equally good
friend? Here are 10 signs you're a true mom friend.
We're all raising our kids differently and she would never judge you for the way you're raising yours—even if your kids go to bed later than hers.
3. Mom friends notice
when they haven't heard from the other in a while.
Time flies when you're
having fun and when you're a mom. Good friends notice when they haven't heard
from the other in a while and check in even if it's not her turn to call.
4. A true mom friend
offers to help without being asked.
It's easy for moms to feel buried and
we often refer to ourselves as "sinking." Good friends notice when the other is
sinking and offer to help even when her buddy says no.
5. Mom friends never
dish on each other's husbands!
Even when you dish on your husband, your
bestie doesn't chime in. She gets that you're just venting. But if you and he split, all bets are off!
6. She never gets catty
about your kids.
She's honest about your kids when needed, but never catty.
And she never, ever talks about your kids behind your back. If she does
have a concern about one of your kids, she tells your privately and politely
because she cares enough to intervene.
7. A true mom keeps your secrets and your
Moms should be able to talk openly with friends about anything their
kid is going through without feeling like it's going to be on the front page of
the school parking lot news. Kids should
never be fodder and a true mom friend knows that.
8. Real mom friends hold
your grudges, too.
In the back of every mom friend's brain is a
list of the teacher who didn't like your kid, the lady at the grocery store who
asked if you were pregnant six months after you delivered and the parking lot mom
who said she was surprised your kid tested gifted. Real mom friends forgive,
but they don't forget on your behalf.
9. A true mom friend
celebrates your successes and never your failures.
All moms will have parenting success and
failures. Her good friends will celebrate the highs and not the lows. And her
friends will reciprocate in kind.