Okay, so here’s the thing. I love breastfeeding and I love
breastfeeding mamas and I am all for public breastfeeding and breastfeeding
support and I think that INTERNATIONAL BREASTFEEDING AWARENESS MONTH is
wonderful. That said, I think that there are a lot of mamas out there who feel
slighted by this because, let's be honest, there is a LOT of shaming when it comes
to how we nourish our babies and there needn’t be because we’re all doing our
And so starting today, AUGUST 14TH, 2014, I am
instating International SUPPORT ALL MOTHERS WHO THOUGHTFULLY NOURISH THEIR
BABIES WEEK. And it includes all breastfeeding mothers AND all bottle-feeding
mothers. It includes parents of adoptive
children and those (like me) who have had breast reduction surgery that make it
nearly impossible or incredibly difficult to breastfeed. It includes survivors of
breast cancer, women who attempted to nurse but could not, women who didn’t
attempt to nurse for whatever reason, women who pump in an office, women who supplement with formula from time to time, and same sex parents who don’t own
and/or operate breasts but are also (just like us) successfully raising
children and bonding with them just as beautifully as anyone.
Every loving parent deserves a support group.
In other words, every single one of us has a story and a
reason and a love for their child that cannot be quantified and should NEVER
FOR ANY REASON be compared.
I realize that it is completely fucked up that breastfeeding
in a public forum is anything but celebrated. And I have HUGE respect for
lactivists and all women who advocate for breastfeeding awareness and reform. I
also have huge respect for everyone else who is doing their best to love and
nourish their children.
Not that we shouldn’t all (even bottle/formula feeders) make
breastfeeding our business. We live in a puritanical country that somehow
manages to sexualize everything about the female body while simultaneously censoring the
A nipple will bring an R rating to a movie faster than a
torture scene will. That’s so
unbelievable to me I want to scream. And cry. And scream again.
…But let us not forget, as we work together to reverse the
hypocrisy, that celebrating breastfeeding does not have to mean discounting
those who, for whatever reason, did not.
Every loving parent deserves a support group. Even the ones
who do it differently. NO ONE, man or woman, should feel shamed feeding his/her
baby on a park bench on a Sunday afternoon—whether by bottle, breast or both.