This week we're talking about birthday parties because
someone wrote in and was like, "Why can't I just drop my kid off at his
friend's birthday party and leave? What's up with having to stay for every
And in my head I was like, "Uh, yeah. What is up with these
modern times and what has happened to America?"
I mean, do you guys remember what it was like when we were
kids? My parents dropped me off at every birthday party and then picked me up
when it was over. And when we had birthday parties? It was ALWAYS kids only. A
parent wouldn't dare stick around. (Even in Kindergarten, parents who didn't
even KNOW my parents were like, "Peace out, kid! See ya in two!")
Now? Parties aren't even FOR the kids, they're for the
parents of the kids. When
we threw Fable a birthday party last year, I spent more time trying to
figure out food for the parents, who would no doubt be staying, than I did the
kids. (Archer refuses to have birthday parties because they make him feel
uncomfortable. Me too, dude.)
And while I was tempted to be like "Please just drop your kid
off! And leave your # so I can call you with a problem!" I knew that nobody
would come unless… well…the whole family was invited.
. . . I always feel like I have to stay because all the other parents are staying
So what to do? Put it on the invitation? KIDS ONLY, PLEASE — THIS IS A DROP-OFF PARTY!
Is that rude? Would you be mad if a parent invited your kid
to their kids' party and told you not to come? Or would you be relieved, at
peace, hashtag blessed?
Does anyone have anything to say on the issue of birthday
parties becoming adult parties with kids at them? Would you drop your small
child off at a birthday party if you didn't know the parents? Why do you think
it's so different now than it was when we were kids?
And by the way, this is for bigger kids. I would NEVER have
a party for my 3-year-old and tell the parents to drop off, nor would I
drop my 3-year-old off at a party, but Fable is certainly capable of being
at a birthday party without me. Except I always feel like I have to stay
because all the other parents are staying and I don't want to be the weird one
who's like, "Catch you on the flipside. Mama out."
I am finding more often than not, that celebrating the kid
is but a small part of the actual party... which sucks because most of the time
the parents DON'T want to be there. And then it's just awkward.
I mean… right?
We had FORTY people at our house when Fable turned 5. There
is NO WAY I'm doing that again.
Unless… I don't have a choice?
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