Our Privacy/Cookie Policy contains detailed information about the types of cookies & related technology on our site, and some ways to opt out. By using the site, you agree to the uses of cookies and other technology as outlined in our Policy, and to our Terms of Use.


Childless Bachelor Reacts to Toddler

My best friend is a man. People will tell you that men and women can’t be platonic friends, but we’ve somehow managed to make it work. There has been nearly 20 years of friendship under our belts now, complete with traveling adventures, moves that have separated us by thousands of miles, and life changes that have put us on what would seem to be different stratospheres.

That best friend of mine lives in Los Angeles and works as an actor and voiceover extraordinaire. If you watch Fox, you’ve likely heard him on a weekly basis. He is also a consummate bachelor, dating women 10 years younger then him (on average) with tight little bodies and plenty of … enthusiasm. On more than one occasion in the last few years, he has told me he might be ready to look for something more substantial and settle down—but then, there is always some new 21-year-old on the horizon.

RELATED: 5 Things Not to Say to Moms of Toddlers

I, on the other hand, am living in Anchorage, Alaska, raising a toddler on my own and spending most of my time living a fairly domestic life. My friends are all married with children, and I haven’t met a man who has felt worth my time in years.

We live different lives, like we always knew we would, realizing from a fairly young age that we both wanted different things. But our friendship has always maintained, which is how we found ourselves in Hawaii together for a week just after the new year—the first attempt at a joint travel adventure since my little one was born.

He might have said a time or two that this trip solidified his desire for a vasectomy.

My friend is basically a big kid himself, but he has never been around a child for an extended period of time. So, I was nervous, nervous that he was going to have a hard time adjusting to the challenges of traveling (and living) with a toddler, and nervous that he would mourn the way we used to travel, hopping from one adventure to the next with little time for rest.

To his credit, he actually did pretty well. He might have said a time or two that this trip solidified his desire for a vasectomy, but by the end, he was asking to hold my little bug in the airport as we worked our way through security, admitting he was going to miss her. Of course, there were some comedic moments along the way, instances where the things coming out of his mouth made it infinitely clear this poor man has no idea what raising a child entails. And that a vasectomy might not be the worst idea ever.

1. “She keeps pulling everything out of drawers!”

On our first day in Hawaii, within hours of arriving, I was unpacking and my girl was exploring. I could hear him following her around, trying to engage and keep her entertained as I got us organized. Finally, he came into the room exasperated and said, “She keeps pulling everything out of drawers! Why does she do that? It’s like she has to touch everything!”

I had to explain that yes, that’s kind of what toddlers do. And then I had to remind him that the last time he had visited me in Alaska, I came to him with the same exasperation—irritated that he, too, seemed intent on touching everything.

He didn’t see the connection.

2. "Why can’t she be more helpful?”

The next day, I overheard the two playing as I got ready for our day. When I rounded the corner, I heard him say, “I keep trying to clean up and you keep pulling everything back out! Why can’t you be more helpful?”

Cracking up, I said, “Seriously, who do you think you’re talking to? 'Helpful’ isn’t in her vocabulary.”

3. "But then I remembered what was waiting in her diaper."

I jumped in the shower one morning before she woke up, only to hear her babbling on the monitor when I got out. He looked up at me and said, “I really wanted to go get her and start playing. But then I remembered what was waiting in her diaper.”

Our entire trip, every single time I attempted to change that diaper, he vacated the room. As quickly as humanly possible.

4. "I really want to play up the whole kid thing."

At one point he said, “I want to see chicks checking me out because they see me playing with her and they think it’s hot.”

Then hours later, he explained, “I just need you to walk away for like 15 minutes. As long as you’re here, people are going to think we’re a family. When really, I need that girl over there to think I’m a hot single dad.”

Yep. He tried to use my kid to score dates. And no, I did not comply.

Even just the look of pure horror on his face every time someone made the assumption that we were a family and referred to him as “dad” or her as his daughter was pretty priceless. Until, by the end of our trip, he confessed to me, “That guy asked me how old my daughter was, and I didn’t correct him. It felt weird.”

Do you think I could get her to go in (the fridge) and let me close the door?

Over the course of our week together, I found spaghetti noodles in my hairbrush and didn’t know if they were left there by him or my little girl. The two of them made a game of seeing who could be the loudest and laughed hysterically as they copied each other’s movements. I cleaned and cooked. They played. My two kids, getting along so well.

On our last day, I walked into the kitchen to find him holding the refrigerator door open and telling her it was Alaska. “Do you think I could get her to go in and let me close the door?” he asked. I couldn’t tell if he was serious or not. But I made it very clear that doing so would not be OK.

My little girl couldn’t say his name, but what she did say sounded an awful lot like “Ducky.” And by the time we said our goodbyes, I could tell she was going to miss Uncle Ducky almost as much as I would—he was certainly more fun than I am!

RELATED: 11 Words That Take on a Different Meaning After Kids

I love that my little girl is going to grow up with an Uncle Ducky in her life.

Even if I would never leave him alone with my kid, purely out of fear that he might actually close her into the refrigerator.

More from toddler