Because girls enjoy building things just like boys play with dolls just like girls like dinosaurs just like boys are natural caretakers, too.
Toy aisles do not suggest these basic truths. Neither do clothing racks, which is why today I would like to point your attention (thanks to readers who tipped me off) to two kickstarters that are fighting the good fight, providing our daughters with dinosaur dresses and our sons with dolls. (Remember My Buddy dolls? These are kind of like those, which, I mean... why did they ever discontinue them!? And why have they not brought them back, with say, Rainbow Brite and Strawberry Shortcake!?)
"As a psychotherapist, I've witnessed many boys and men struggle to achieve impossible ideals of masculinity. Culturally, boys are raised to be tough and self-reliant but when internalized, I've seen this lead to isolation, depression and sometimes aggression.
Even though I was aware of these harsh social expectations, I was floored when my own son came home from preschool one day and announced that “boys aren’t supposed to cry."
Researchshows that relationships and the ability to connect emotionally are key to happiness, health and even career success.Studiesalso show that toys have the power to influence the way kids see themselves and the world around them. But right now toys that encourage connection and empathy are only marketed to girls -- sending the message to many boys that this kind of play is not for them.
Archer's too old for dolls, now, but had these been available years ago, I would have absolutely bought him one. Because Archer has always been a caretaker and nurturing that against the pressure of modern male archetypes has been... a battle. A peaceful battle, but nonetheless, a battle.
To find out more about Wonder Crew and/or purchase a doll for your child OR someone you know, go here. (You can also make a tax deductible donation, by purchasing a doll for a local hospital or school.)
Let's support Laura, Wonder Crew, and boys everywhere, ready and GO!
And while you're at it, check out Princess Awesome (whose Kickstarter closed yesterday, raising $215,000. Amazing.)
As for you guys, if you have a Kickstarter you want to share, please let me know! I mean, Goldieblox are for sale at Target these days, which, YES. Change is here and it's happening and it's because parents are getting shit done and supporting one another and BAM! Ten thousand fist bumps!
YOU HAVE THE POWER, MAMAS AND PAPAS. Let's change those toy aisles for good! Or at the very least, give our kids the options to be color OUTSIDE the aisles.
Because dolls and dinosaurs are for everyone. The end.