Being a mom can be so stressful, especially when your child decides to throw a tantrum in the middle of a crowded restaurant or grocery store. It used to make me so anxious to think about my kid screaming in public that I would bend over backwards to make sure it didn't happen. You want to make a mess on the restaurant table? Okay. You want that cheap plastic toy in the store? Sure. Just stay quiet and happy!
And my son was definitely learning something. He was learning that he could get away with almost anything in public. We made a change and started letting him know that he couldn't always get his way. At first the tantrums embarrassed me terribly. What would people think? Would I be seen as a bad mother? Would my son be seen as a brat? I could feel myself get hot and my own temper would begin to boil.
I get embarrassed by his undesirable behavior and want to crawl into a hole and hide. But more and more I'm realizing that HE'S THREE.
I would get so upset by the situation that I would really let my son have it once we got back to the car. I feel terrible about the way I would yell at him. He certainly didn't deserve that and me having my own tantrum was not solving anything. It still happens from time to time. I get embarrassed by his undesirable behavior and want to crawl into a hole and hide. But more and more I'm realizing that HE'S THREE. He's still figuring out how to handle intense emotions. He's a normal three-year-old boy and sometimes he has a meltdown in public.
Now when it happens I do my best to deal with it. Either I remove him from the situation to speak with him privately or I give him "the look" in hopes that he will get the message and pipe down. And yes, sometimes I just ignore him because I know it's the best and quickest way for him to calm down. If other people don't like it they can deal with it.
Tantrums never last too long, and while they may feel like an eternity in the moment, usually they're over in a matter of minutes. We shouldn't be embarrassed or bothered by typical toddler behavior. As adults and parents we should just keep our cool and deal with it in the best way possible. Maybe even just laugh it off because this too shall pass.