Let me be perfectly honest here. I have three kids, very close in age, and would love another baby. Key word: BABY. Not another two-year-old. Not another three-year-old. Not another college education to pay for. Not another child throwing a fit because I gave them the zebra bowl instead of the hippo one for breakfast. But another baby. Another life-changing day. Another little snuggly thing making puppy sounds and smelling like milk. Another little fuzzy head to kiss all the livelong day.
I get asked all the time if we are going to have another baby. Usually, I say, NO. Business is closed. That ship has sailed. I joke that if my husband could carry and birth our 4th child, I might consider it. But since that is probably not going to happen, a 4th child is out of the question right now.
But then, my best friend tells me she's pregnant or I see a newborn photo that makes my ovaries sing. I stumble across a freaking adorable organic onesie or I read an old blog post about being a new mom, and my "I WANT ANOTHER BABY" anthem plays loudly.
Like a metaphorical slap in the face, I quickly remind myself of every reason I don't need or want another one. All it takes is going through a quick list to remind me that 3 babies is enough babies for me. So, if you, too, feel the urge to procreate once again when you know you really shouldn't, here are 9 reasons to talk you out of it...
1. Morning sickness. Also known as all-day sickness and being totally miserable for the first 12-14 weeks. With one of my pregnancies, I threw up so much that I actually lost weight instead of gained it. I still have nightmares about the first trimester.
2. Threenagers. It's true, each stage and age has it's good and bad parts. But let me tell you, threenagers are the worst. They have the mouths of 16-year-olds but no logic to back up their outbursts. Trying to survive another three-year-old is now on my list of greatest fears.
3. Sciatica. During each of my pregnancies, I experienced severe sciatica. Some days, I could barely walk. I even had to attend physical therapy to have my out-of-place pelvis readjusted. Sciatica is just one of the lovely symptoms of a "normal" pregnancy and a good reason for me to avoid making any more humans.
I don't remember the last time I ate a meal without having to get up 17 times during the middle of it.
4. Sleeplessness. The newborn stage is rough. As wonderful as a new baby is, getting no sleep is hardly bearable. With kids already in tow, there is no "nap when the baby naps" for you.
5. Money. Kids are expensive, you guys. Soccer practice. Swim lessons. School clothes. Day care. Summer camp. Prom. College. Adding another kiddo to your brood is like writing a check for $250,000.
6. Labor. Sure, the day your baby is born in likely to change your life. But don't forget what happens before that baby is in your arms. You will probably cuss. You might scream. You'll probably despise your husband for at least part of it. Your baby has to come out of you, which either means a great deal of hard work and pain associated with your lady parts or a surgery and scar that is expensive and difficult to recover from.
7. Italy. Or Greece. Or the Bahamas. Or wherever you've dreamed of vacationing with your sweetheart. Another baby likely means putting off your romantic dream vacation another couple of years.
8. Raw Nips.Breastfeeding is fantastic and one of my favorite parts of early motherhood, but I have always experienced a week or so of super painful feeding. I could certainly go without the excruciating pain of booby scabs for the rest of my life.
9. Mental health. With three kids, I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown pretty much daily. I don't remember the last time I ate a meal without having to get up 17 times during the middle of it. I don't remember the last time I had a conversation with my spouse without being interrupted. Your mental health is important and adding another baby to your life will certainly not make things easier for you.