We followed "The Happy Sleeper" and loooved it. Our son is now 17 months old and
still craves a 6:30 bedtime. For the past month, though, he wakes at 4:30 a.m. and
will not go back down. We would love a 6 a.m. wake up (or later ... but 6 am would be
Any tips or advice would be great.
Dear Too Early,
I’m glad "The Happy Sleeper" book as been so helpful. Your
little one will do well with 11 hours of sleep at least, so putting him down at
6:30 p.m. could mean he’s ready for the day as early as 5:30 a.m.
The answer isn’t to make his bedtime later, though, because
as you know he might still wake at 5:30 in the morning, no matter what time he tucks in for
the night. Waking up too early in the morning is one of the most common and
stubborn sleep issues (as you’ve seen), so it can really take a few solid weeks
to turn it around. When you’re working on sleep—for example, using a technique
like our Sleep Wave method for babies over 5 months—the early night wakings
usually go away first. The later ones can take longer. After 4 a.m.
tends to be the hardest, because your baby has already had, in this case, 10
hours of sleep at that point.
This is very normal, so don’t worry that you’ll be waking up
in the dark forever. Make sure the room is blacked out, continue your regular
checks if you’re using the Sleep Wave and revisit the section of the book in
Chapter 4 called "Waking Up Too Early." It’s normal to have a little regression
like this, where he might have been sleeping later and all of a sudden is
popping up earlier. He’ll just need you to help him adjust his internal clock
using that section of the book to get him to the 11-hour mark.
You may eventually want to move his bedtime to 7 p.m. When
his naptime falls into the 12:30 to 2:30 p.m. zone that will shift his bedtime to 7
and, eventually, 7:30 p.m., which may naturally shift his wake-up time
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